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It’s been a while since I’ve last written – not because I didn’t have time, but because so much has been going on that I wasn’t sure where to start. So I’ll start the new year by sharing how I spent my last 3 months.
We have a new member of the family! My brother was married on a cold, rainy October day in the middle of a National Park in Ohio. They did a DIY, rustic barn wedding so it was a lot of work that last week to get everything together and hauled to the venue and set up the day of the wedding. Being a FL transplant, the autumn rain had me shaking with shivers as I watched this new sister of mine walk down the aisle. Later I found a heat lamp and let the party come to me. And I loved every minute of it. My brother has a wonderful new wife. I have a wonderful new sister. And I can’t wait to be able to spend even more time with the couple.
November was all about finishing out the year right. Jason and I started training for a 5K we wanted to run close to Christmas. I took a much-needed roadtrip with a workout buddy and we got serious about keeping up with the College Football standings – especially with our beloved Ohio State Buckeyes. I got a much-needed haircut after growing my hair our for the wedding back in October. And Jason and I cannot resist the Food Truck Festivals that are starting to pop up all over.
December was all about celebrating – our accomplishments, our year and each other. We ran that Christmas 5K. Jason blew right by me finishing 10 mins earlier than I did! Wow! My co-workers and I took a cooking class where we created a French-inspired dinner. Christmas was all about spoiling our furbaby with a new tunnel and mice, spending time with Jason’s mom and her boyfriend and making sure our church friends knew how much we loved and appreciated them.
New Year’s Eve is a special time for us. It was on a New Year’s Eve when Jason picked me up from the airport after I got back from visiting family in OH that he asked me out on a date. I guess you could say that on the last day of the year, Jason and I celebrate the first day of our relationship – 13 years and going strong! And as a special surprise to me, he didn’t have to work at his job this year so I could celebrate with him until midnight.
The truth is…
The truth is that sometimes the waiting to be match to a birth mother can be an exhausting process for adoptive parents like us. We constantly ask ourselves thing like “When was the last time I checked in with our social worker?” “Did we turn in that grant application last week?” or “Should we buy that crib on sale or wait until we’re actually matched?” (We bought the crib. It was a great deal!) We make checklists and check in with online support groups and keep adding to our hidden Pinterest boards full of parenting advise, baby shower ideas and nursery decor… keeping ourselves motivated to continue to wait. While my workout friends are making resolutions about weight loss, I’m checking deadlines for our next home study and making doctor’s appointments for our physicals.
The start of a new year brings hope…
Jason and both have a feeling that 2019 might be our year. Maybe we’ll get matched to a mother who will bring us an incredible gift – a child to raise. Maybe we’ll experience personal accomplishments that we can’t even begin to imagine yet. Maybe we’ll be witness to the blessings of our friends and family once again – I do have 3 cousins due to be born before March and my best friend gave birth to her first child – a boy – yestersday. So here’s hoping that 2019 will be our year! And yours too!