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Letter to my future child
From the moment I met your father I could not wait to start planning for a family with him. He is the man I spent a long time dreaming about and waiting for. He is my best friend, the most wonderful father and together we make the best team. I still wake up, even 5 years later, thankful he is by my side and excited for the day. We dream of you together. We talk about you and our life together when you join us. We are so filled with hope for our future together as a family.
Here is a tiny glimpse of what is in store for you; We will travel together. There is nothing more important to me than making memories, having adventures and seeing new sights together as a family. I love the water with its endless waves approaching the shore, our toes in the sand, sun on our faces. It is where I feel the world stands still and where I have sent many positive prayers for you to come into our lives. I can’t wait to share these moments with you as I chase you towards the water, we build castles and we fill buckets with shells. Whether it is on the shores of the Great Lakes, The Atlantic or Pacific Oceans, we will make many memories at the water’s edge and places in between.
You will always be learning. Everywhere we go your father will teach you about things. Whether it is plants, animals, anything having to do with nature, your dad will tell you everything he knows. I likely will stay on the path while he drifts off to the depths of the forest to find something new to show you. He loves to be outside, he loves to build, and he will do anything for you that your little heart desires. Your father will teach you to cook, how to make food by tasting and adding ingredients. He loves a good sou chef in his kitchen. You will never be hungry and we will show you to enjoy good food. (When you can start on solids of course). Your brother’s favorite meal is salmon with orange sauce and brussel sprouts! (Wow)
You will never feel alone, you will never be bored and you will be loved by so many near and far. We have so many friends and family members who are waiting for your arrival. So many people have been on this journey with us and are sending out positive vibes hoping you will find your way to us. You will meet every one of them and be surrounded by an enormous community filled with love. Our neighborhood is filled with children waiting for you to be their forever friend. You have a big brother who has been waiting for a sibling for a very long time. He will be older now but that means he will show more kindness, gentleness and he will be protective of you as you grow. You have grandparents waiting to spoil you rotten! Cousins, aunts and uncles who are also anxiously awaiting your arrival. We have such a village of comfort and strength around us. It is simply awe inspiring.
As for me, your Mom, I will likely stare at you every night and just watch you sleep. Hopefully by the time you go to kindergarten I will grow out of that phase. I will be thankful for you every day of my life. I will be thankful every day for your mother and father for choosing us to guide you on this journey. I will give you every opportunity in life to choose (and blaze) your own path. I will love you unconditionally. I will teach you to be a kind, loving, caring person and to help those in need. I will teach you laughter, community and how to be a good friend. I will teach you compassion, empathy and how being open is better than being closed. I will lead by example. I will be your advocate. I will fight for you tooth and nail, I will be your role model as a strong leader. I love to talk so we will have lots of endless conversations, even about nothing at all. I will also listen to your troubles and sad times and help you navigate your feelings. I will be there for every bump and bruise. I will even apply band aids to cuts that don’t exist especially if it makes you feel better.
I have never wanted something so much in my entire life. I remain open and waiting for you. It is hard to be so vulnerable and exposed but I know you are out there. When you are ready, we will find each other and it will all be worth the wait.
I love you!