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I’m not usually the journalling type but after looking over our profile we made almost a year ago I realize we have changed/grown a lot through this journey. I felt like our profile doesn’t quite capture us completely. Now, I would like to give regular updates through this platform so our profile can be more complete. But, before we can look forward, we have to look back. What has happened this past year:
This time last year we were completing our educational assignments and working our way through the home study checklist. We got through our list very quickly! We were lucky to have a case worker who was as motivated as us. She scheduled our interviews as soon as possible so all we had to focus on was getting the many forms filled out by our references and our employers.
We told our family we were starting the adoption process. Since we are the first people in our family to adopt, we got mixed reactions. Everyone was excited but I think they held back there excitement knowing we were just starting the process and weren’t matched yet. The best reaction was from my grandmother! She had been suffering from dementia for a while and didn’t get excited about much anymore but she nearly fell out of her chair with excitement when I told her! Typing this now brings tears to my eyes because in September my grandmother went to be with the Lord. She never got to be a great-grandmother but I am glad we were able to share our excitement with her.
By the end of January we were officially on the waiting list! We had so much help from many of our friends to gather photos and create a video for our profile. Everyone in our community has been so supportive through this whole process.
Did we think we would get matched right away? Of course. Doesn’t everyone?! But we weren’t. And that is ok. This year we have focused on living our lives as though we aren’t waiting for anything. Our infertility journey stole a lot of that freedom from us so it was nice to not be held hostage by standing doctor’s appointments. And this was a good year. We took many trips to Northern Michigan, went on dates, were spontaneous.
Along with our carefree year, we have also made plans for what life would be like bringing a baby home. I painted the future nursery and we’ve organized the furniture that will go into the room. I haven’t brought myself to buy anything though. That is something I believe needs to be specific to the baby.
I have taken a few risks at work that I don’t believe I would have if we were matched right away. I got certified and applied for a Board of Directors position that will add to my responsibilities at work. Spencer has gotten into a few hobbies he may not have found time for if we were matched right away. Of course, these hobbies and new responsibilities at work will never steal time away from our family because family is priority number one! We are just now in a place where we can see that we are able to be more well rounded at parents.
All of this to say, we have grown a lot in this first year of waiting. This was a long post but I did have a year to catch you up on. I will post updates more regularly so you can join us as we grown throughout this second year!