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Originally posted November 11, 2019
This morning, I am at the vet with our cat, Mr. Pointy. I mention this because our experience with our cats is something I wish we could be sharing with the child we will eventually adopt.
A year ago, we were here at this same vet center – the morning after Thanksgiving, our cat Fred (brother to George, because they were twins and we do love our books) had “an event.” We drove home immediately and spent the weekend shuttling back and forth, talking with doctors and staff, spending time with Fred and waiting to hear… well, anything. For 56 hours, we drove and cried, we petted and loved on Fred, we waited for messages and tests, we talked options and decided among them. It was a hard weekend and at the end of it, we sat on our sofa and petted Fred while a vet gave him two final injections and then he could rest at last.
George has had his own challenges – cancer and chemo and his weight rising and falling as we tried different foods, different bribes, baby food and wet foods and tuna. He’s doing much better, but the chemo continues.
And now Mr. Pointy is here and we are waiting to hear if his situation is merely bad or very bad, or perhaps something-else-entirely that no one figured out, yet. The odds of the latter are almost nil, but hope springs eternal.
All of this is really just to set the stage: I wish we could be sharing this experience with the child we will adopt. Not that I wish this sadness on them, or anyone, but we will help them understand that taking in a pet is not just a matter of pet toys and petting and scritches and curled-up sleeping beside us in bed. There are boring and tedious and occasionally stinky responsibilities. There are decisions of time and money and quality of life. When we chose Fred and George and Mr. Pointy at the cat rescue 17 and a half years ago and brought them home, it was more than just a way to have warm purrings in our home: we committed to caring for them and making responsible and hard decisions. They are part and parcel of choosing to bring a pet into our home – the hard and the wonderful, the costly and the priceless.