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Dear Expectant Parent,
We are honored and joyous that you are taking the time to learn more about us and are considering us to be your child's adoptive parents. Our names are Abbie and Sam, and we cannot wait to have the gift to be parents!
We look forward to sharing wonderful moments of fun and learning with our child. Abbie cannot wait to play baseball with her child in the backyard and take him or her to see a Chicago Cubs baseball game. They are her favorite baseball team! If the child is a girl, Abbie cannot wait to paint her finger nails and toenails. Sam cannot wait to teach our child how to fish, how to water the plants and how to take care of the vegetables in our garden. He loves the outdoors. Sam is also looking forward to taking our child to the grocery store. Abbie loves music and cannot wait to sing and dance with our child as they pick up around the house or do dishes together.
We cannot wait to show our child the animals at the zoo and watch him or her feed them for the first time. We are also excited to read wonderful stories to our child. Â Abbie cannot wait to help our child study for a test, learn to spell a word and work a math problem. She has always loved school. Sam is excited to share visits to historical sites with our child. He has always loved history.
We look forward to having a third person join our table especially when we have our weekend breakfasts of eggs and blueberry muffins or waffles. Sam is looking forward to watching Saturday morning cartoons with our child. We also look forward to celebrating holidays with our child. Abbie's favorite holiday is St. Patrick's Day. She listens to Irish music and wears green the entire month of March. Thanksgiving is important to Sam. His family gets together for a family reunion on a farm in Georgia. Â We cannot wait to take our child on the traditional family hay rides. We look forward to so many wonderful moments with our child throughout his or her life.
Let us share a couple facts about ourselves. Abbie grew up in Virginia, and it was at graduate school where she met her southern gentleman from Georgia, Sam. We were married in 2007, and we went to Napa Valley, California for our honeymoon. Shortly after we started our life together as husband and wife, we adopted a cat named Thomas. He is handsome, loving, and very social. We adore him! Sam works for a regional ministry where he aids pastors and their churches in carrying out their ministerial goals. Abbie is a minister in a Virginia church. She spends a majority of her time ministering to teenagers and loves them. She also works with the children's ministry, teaches adult Bible Studies and preaches occasionally for Sunday morning worship.
We cannot wait for our child to experience all the different children's activities at church. We both grew up going to church every Sunday. Our faith is very important to us, and we plan to raise our child in a Christian home. We want our child to learn that God is always there and loves him or her unconditionally. We also want to share God's forgiveness with our child and teach him or her how to show grace to others as well. Â We want our child to learn to let God guide his or her heart through the good days and hard days of life.
By choosing us to be your child's adoptive parents, you are giving us an opportunity that we would not have had otherwise. Abbie was born with cataracts on her eyes, and they were removed when she was six weeks old. The glasses she wears help her see. Â Abbie also has glaucoma in her left eye. The eye drops she takes to keep this from hindering her sight would harm the development of a child in her womb. Abbie believes that the challenges she has had with her eyesight has taught her a tremendous amount about overcoming obstacles, laughing at herself and not letting anything hold her back. Â She looks forward to passing these important life lessons on to her child.
We pray for you as you make this decision. Whether we are the adoptive parents you choose for your child or not, we wish the very best for you and your child. Thank you for taking the time to learn about us!
Abbie and Sam
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
The below form is not a contract or promise of financial assistance. It is merely used to articulate your past due debts and monthly expenses and income.