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We are Donald and Charity and we are so honored that you are taking the time to get to know a little bit about us. We love one another very much and are grateful to be best friends. God has blessed us to have one biological child, Zoe (7). Zoe is precocious, kind, and ready to be a big sister, but she's made it unmistakably clear, she cannot come in close proximity to poop.
Children change everything, don't they? We recognize and respect this difficult and important decision you are making and we want you to know your courage is commendable to us. We covered you in prayer before we started this process, even though we have not yet met you. The Lord's hand is navigating something far beyond our imaginations. When we married, we never once thought it would be such a challenge for us to grow our family, but we see now that God is using our challenge to His glory, and we are at peace with that. We know it was the Lord working in you to choose life for this child. You did not have to, and yet you did.
We hope that you will be comforted in your spirit as you turn through these pages and get to know us and our support system: a wonderful mesh of unique extended family, amazing church family and delightfully quirky friends. If you decide to place with us, we will wholeheartedly devote ourselves to giving that special little person the life you dream for them. We will love them and recognize continually the love you have for them. We are co-authoring the story of a wonderful child, after all. We are mutually interested in the man or woman this child will become.
Do know that we (Donald and Charity) are not perfect people, but we know God is perfect and we trust His will. We rely on Him greatly to direct our family's path. We trust He has His hand on our marriage and that He is doing something quite intentional with our family. Our home is filled with love, honesty, perseverance, forgiveness, laughter, structure and reliability, but not by any spectacular flexing of our own will or expertise: the Lord has guided it all. We hope that this book can give you some insight into who we are and perhaps you may actually want to meet with us in the near future. But if not, just remember: you are covered in prayer.
In Christian Love,
Donald & Charity
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
The below form is not a contract or promise of financial assistance. It is merely used to articulate your past due debts and monthly expenses and income.