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We met in 2006, at a hospital in NYC, where Paul was working as a surgical resident, and Ken was a visiting medical student. We developed an immediate friendship. When Ken’s rotation ended, he returned to Canada to finish medical school. We lost touch for a time while both of us were advancing our careers in medicine.
In 2015, we discovered, through social media, that we had both independently moved to Philadelphia and lived close to one another; this was an amazing coincidence, that we truly believe was fate. We met for a lovely dinner and found ourselves laughing and talking for hours. Reconnecting with mutual admiration and chemistry was special. We began dating and quickly realized we shared the same values, interests, humor, and love of family. We both knew we wanted to be in each other’s lives forever and in 2017 we were married.
Our marriage is built on mutual respect, honest communication, and unconditional support. More than anything, we love each other’s company and spend a lot of time laughing and being silly. We encourage each other in all our endeavors and make a great team!
When we decided to have children, we researched many different avenues, including surrogacy, foster care, as well as adoption. We were continually drawn back to open adoption as the right choice for us. We adopted our daughter, Charlotte, in 2019. We are fortunate to have developed an early bond and now a strong relationship with her birth mother. We know that having contact with her birth family is important for her sense of identity and emotional well-being, and we love watching Charlotte thrive as a result. Our adoption experience has been so exciting, surprising, and so fulfilling that we are excited to begin the journey again.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
The below form is not a contract or promise of financial assistance. It is merely used to articulate your past due debts and monthly expenses and income.